How to Reduce Holiday Stress for Kids—and Yourself
It’s not just adults who feel holiday pressure—kids experience holiday stress too, often in subtle ways. Children may feel disappointed or overwhelmed when the season doesn’t match the picture-perfect version they see in movies, ads, or on social media.
Pediatric psychiatrist Dr. Laura Cardella, MD, of UR Medicine’s Golisano Children’s Hospital shares tips to help families manage holiday stress together.
Stick to Your Routine When You Can
Change in routine can be hard for everyone, especially children. Try to keep your child on his or her normal schedule as much as possible. Consistency with sleep, meals, and playtime gives kids a sense of stability, even when the holidays get busy.
Keep the Kids in the Loop
Keeping children informed helps reduce anxiety and makes them feel included in family plans. Holiday schedules often shift—especially with travel—but kids will adapt more easily when they know what to expect.
Share upcoming plans with them, including where you’re going, who will be there, and what activities they can look forward to.
Take Care of Yourself, Too
Kids are quick to pick up on adult emotions—even when nothing is said. If you’re stressed, your child is likely to feel it too.
During the holidays, it’s important to recognize your limits and remember that it’s okay to say no to commitments you can’t manage.
When stress does surface, talk with your child in an age-appropriate way: explain that you have a lot on your mind and may seem more anxious than usual. If you need support, lean on friends, family, or a healthcare professional. You can be a role model for your child on how to handle problems in a healthy way.
Accept and Adapt to Family Dynamics
Family gatherings can be joyful, but they can also stir up old conflicts. Use these moments to show your child what healthy communication looks like.
Remember that you can’t control others’ actions, only your own. Keep expectations realistic and try to approach relatives with patience and acceptance. If tension arises, model calmness by stepping away from arguments instead of joining them.
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